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Three’s a Crowd: Can an Open Relationship Work?
Breathless is a new regular column about dating and relationships by Slutever.com blogger Karley Sciortino. One morning last week, I awoke to find an e-mail from my girlfriend. Which worried me. It’s...
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Sexy Not Skimpy: What to Wear as 30 Looms
Last year, I showed up at a magazine launch party wearing my favorite outfit at the time—a pink PVC minidress. I’ve always liked parodying the look of the stereotypical blonde tart, and this dress was...
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The O Factor: Are Orgasms Always Necessary?
Earlier this week, The New York Times published an article about the lingering inequality in hook-up culture: Even in today’s sexually liberated society, where men and women are supposed equals in the...
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The Mature Allure: Dissecting the Attraction of the Older Man
Last winter, I had my first experience seriously dating an older man. He was a successful tech entrepreneur in his late forties, making him 20 years my senior. We were on our third date, and he was...
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When the Life You Choose Is a Life Less Ordinary
Next week, I’ll take an hour-and-a-half train ride along the Hudson River to upstate New York to spend Christmas with my conservative Catholic family. Dinner will be riddled with the same questions...
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Does Size Matter?: Encounters with a Less-Endowed Partner
Last night, over dinner, I was caught off guard when a female friend of mine—a bookish writer who’s rarely the type to talk explicitly about sex—said to me, “I think guys with really tiny penises...
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The Business of Beautification: Considering the Vajacial
Every vagina has its own style, obviously. In the same way fashion and hairstyles change with the times, so does what goes on between a woman’s legs. And now more than ever, it feels like there’s a...
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Ignorance or Insensitivity? Dealing with Transgender Culture
It was announced today that the new Barneys New York catalog features nearly 20 transgender models, all photographed by Bruce Weber. One of the models—Ryley Pogensky, who identifies as “gender...
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A Rational Woman’s Approach to Valentine’s Day
Valentine’s Day is tomorrow, and I’m thinking about love. I’m writing this column from an apartment in Rome, home of Saint Valentine—a happy coincidence I discovered from a quick skim of Wikipedia....
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What Is So “Female” About Female Intuition?
A friend of mine recently came to my apartment in a panic, worried that her boyfriend was cheating on her. When I asked how she’d come to that conclusion, she said, “I don’t know, I can just tell.” I...
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How to Get What You Want in Bed
Last year, I briefly dated a guy who wasn’t very skilled with his hands, to say the least. Simply put, he fingered me like one picks one’s nose—as if he was digging for something, using this incessant...
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What Does Our Obsession with Sex Addiction Say About Us?
Nymphomaniac, the new film by Lars von Trier, recounts the extreme, prolific, and at times risky sexual history of a woman named Joe, a self-proclaimed nymphomaniac. Put simply, it’s one of the best...
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Setting Your Boundaries When Dating a New Ager
Expand Photographed by Karley Sciortino | Styled by Jorden Bickham Last summer, I was at a rooftop party with a girl I’d recently met—I thought it was a date, or at least I hoped it was. I didn’t know...
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Can Less Sex Make You More Productive?
In early 2010, I went more than four months without having sex. I was living in London at the time, and had become bored with my social scene. Every time I scanned the room at a party I had the same...
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Roughly 1 Person Every 10 Minutes Is Diagnosed with HIV in the U.S., so Why...
Last year, after meeting a guy at a party, I ended up back at his apartment in an all too familiar situation: Neither of us had any condoms. Under normal circumstances I would have told him to go out...
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The Post-Relationship Crutch: When Sleeping With Your Ex Becomes a Cock Block
A friend once told me, “You should never break up with someone without a back-up plan.” I took her advice to heart. It just made sense. You wouldn’t leave an apartment without finding a new place to...
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Is Instagram Ruining Your Love Life?
Last week, I found myself paddling a boat around a lake in Los Angeles. I’m not generally the sort of person who paddles boats around lakes—I don’t like being outside that much; whatever—but my...
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Mixed Signals: When Romantic Gestures Get Lost in Translation
Expand Photographed by Mark Peckmezian | Styled by Jessica dos Remedios Last week, at my friend’s birthday dinner in Brooklyn, her boyfriend stood up to perform a toast. Following his little speech,...
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With This Ring: Are We Choosing “The One”
Expand Photographed by Mark Peckmezian | Styled by Jessica dos Remedios I’ve been dating my girlfriend for a year and a half now, and as tends to happen in serious relationships, I occasionally find...
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Why Are Straight Men So Bad at Oral Sex?
Expand Photographed by Mark Peckmezian | Styled by Jessica dos Remedios I once dated a guy who refused to go down on me. “I just don’t like the way it tastes,” was his excuse. As if his dick tasted...
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